Hey Karla - good post outlining an extreme example of a situation that probably exists in some form inside every workplace in America (if not the globe) You outlined the best strategy that I am aware to fix it - coaching, performance expectations - the velvet glove. Unfortunately, this is often just a band-aid for disgruntled tension. At the end of the day, no matter where you work or how valuable you may be, if your workplace is like this one, you are living an effed up life 24/7. You are in the wrong situation.
File your papers and get the hell out. Life is too short not to be valued at work and to be spending so much time in a barely tolerable situation.
Rummuser
· 4 months ago
"If you decide to look for another job please resist all temptation to discuss the personality conflict you have with a co-worker. It’s not going to work in your favor. You’ll need to give another reason for your motivation to change employment." As someone with considerable experience interviewing prospective employees, I find this advise strange. I have come across people who have given this as the reason for wanting to leave or having left their positions. I do not find this a negative factor at all. It is perfectly legitimate for someone to change one's own situation, if that person is not able to change the given environment.
karlaporter
· 4 months ago
Hi Rummuser - The reason for that piece of advice is that one involved in an emotional situation such as a personality conflict is rarely if ever able to speak about it objectively. That makes it very easy to slip up in an interview and say something negative or that could be perceived that way. Negativity and drama is a huge disqualifier. It would be better to say what you basically stated, "I'm interested in a change to the type of environment you offer, flexible, progressive and rewarding," or however it should be described. Thanks for stopping by! ~Karla
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File your papers and get the hell out. Life is too short not to be valued at work and to be spending so much time in a barely tolerable situation.
As someone with considerable experience interviewing prospective employees, I find this advise strange. I have come across people who have given this as the reason for wanting to leave or having left their positions. I do not find this a negative factor at all. It is perfectly legitimate for someone to change one's own situation, if that person is not able to change the given environment.